A Letter to my Grandparents on the 68th Anniversary of D-Day
Dear Nana and Da,
On this day, especially, I am thinking of you both. This day, this anniversary, is a day that my childhood and my adulthood center around in a way that is unique. There are many other days of profound importance in my life–the day I got married, the days my children were born, the day my Grandmother Troje died–but those are days in adulthood and I simply cannot think of another day that, year after year, shaped me in quite the same way this one did. Maybe St. Patrick’s Day because we always had so much fun. But this day, there just is no other like it.
This is the day when I think of a young American Captain, so far from home, storming a beach in France . This is the day when I think of a young bride who knew her husband was in a very dangerous place doing very dangerous things. This is a day when I see myself as a child sitting on your screen porch in Richfield, listening to stories of men who made the ultimate sacrifice and the heartsick women they left behind. This is the day when I think of you, my Da, close to death in hospital, when I was in college. I kept reminding myself that you had survived hell on Omaha Beach, you could survive an illness that threatened to steal you from us and, of course, you did. This is a day when I remember seeing “Saving Private Ryan” for the first time; I sat transfixed and horrified as I watched the scenes of D-Day. I remember feeling like I’d been punched in the gut, thinking of my Da, my kind and gentle grandfather, having to fight in that bloody battle. This is a day when I remember taking my first child, just a baby, to the dedication of the D-Day Memorial in Beford, Virginia; we sat under the hot sun, surrounded by men and women who had given so completely to our country. This is the day when I think of last winter; you, Da, sat with that same child, then 10, and chatted with him about what had happened 67 years earlier. You and Liam have talked so much about that day, and the days that followed, and, simply put, you are his hero. And you are mine.
Throughout my childhood the two of you were a constant–always there, always strong, always full of joy and stories that I just could not seem to get enough of. The story of how you met is always one of my favorites and, not surprisingly, is now a favorite of my children. Here is how you, Nana, described it in one of the pieces you wrote for the memoir books you lovingly created for your daughters and granddaughters. To set it up, you met on the way to a dance . . .
As I seated myself on the hard wooden seat, the Lieutenant appeared at the back of the truck and asked once again if I would like to ride in front with him. It occurred to me that it would certainly be a more comfortable seat, and Angie, seated next to me, whispered, ‘Don’t be dumb. He’s Cute.’ I accepted, and as the gallant Lieutenant reached to lift me down, I jumped and landed squarely on his foot. Thus I met my love . . .
If I close my eyes I can picture the whole scene in my head; the beautiful, dark-haired young woman whose parents immigrated from Ireland many years before meeting the handsome, fair Virginian. The rest is history–a history which I am so blessed to be a part of.
Thank you is inadequate but I don’t know how to fully express my gratitude for all you have given me throughout my life, for all you have given my children, for always being examples of strength, perseverance, and profound love. You both embody the reasons that your generation is called “The Greatest Generation.” It isn’t only the sacrifices you made, or the difficulties you overcame, it’s also the grace with which you handled those experiences. You’ve taught me so much about never giving up, about staying focused on the gifts I’ve been given instead of the hardships that life inevitably holds. You’ve taught me to take those hardships and let them teach me, shape me, but never define me.
More than anything, when I close my eyes and picture the two of you, I see you smiling, I see you looking at each other with love and joy. I see my Da reaching up to twirl his hair with his fingers–the only other person I’ve seen do that is his namesake, Liam–and my Nana reaching out to pat his hand. I see myself being enveloped in the arms of my Nana because you always greeted me with a big hug. I see us all sitting on the back porch talking, laughing, telling stories. A constant force, the two of you, that’s what you’ve always been for me and, now, for my children, and for my husband who simply could not adore you more if you were his grandparents by birth. For all that, for my mother, for every gift you’ve given me, for every time you’ve listened to me, every hug, every story, every afternoon spent making cookies, every hockey game, every holiday we took to Mackinac Island, every dance recital and performance you attended, every Christmas morning, every swim lesson, every phone call, every all of it–thank you. I love you both more than I can ever put into words.
If you would like to see my Da being interviewed about his experiences 68 years ago please click here, this is from a local newscast yesterday
To learn more about D-Day, and how you can support the D-Day memorial in Bedford, Virginia please click here